Forgive This!!!

I read an article on Slate about Yoga, which referenced an article in Yoga Journal about forgiveness. To paraphrase the article, a woman pissed off some old boyfriend/friend, then one day decided that she needed to reconnect with this guy and receive some type of forgiveness. She tracked him down, only to find him and have him respond with, “I never want to hear from you again.” Instead of dropping it, like she should, she dwells on it. “Her interpretation: He's afraid of being hurt again. He just doesn't understand her” so forth and so on.


I’ve never been to Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or any other type of rehab. But I do know, one of the things they like to do is, have people reach out to those they’ve hurt and ask for forgiveness. Why is it that a person needs to be forgiven in order to find some type of internal peace? Is your self esteem so low that it depends on others? Apparently the answer is yes.


I recently had a conversation with someone I used to know pretty well. She got all huffy when I made a negative reference to our past relationship. Followed up with a statement about my forgiveness of her. To all of you looking to others for happiness out there – Don’t put so much stock in what others think. If a person holds a grudge against you (I actually don’t, it was just an offhand comment) just forget about it. The only person who’s being hurt in these situations is the person looking for forgiveness, not the one giving it.


“You know that pain and guilt can't be taken away with a wave of a magic wand. They're the things we carry with us, the things that make us who we are. If we lose them, we lose ourselves. I don't want my pain taken away! I need my pain!” James T. Kirk


Slate article - http://www.slate.com/id/2162283/pagenum/2/

Comments

Rooster said…
Um, did you just quote Star Trek for philisophical reasons? You need help.
Cranky_Monkey said…
Yeah, I think I’ve been working at Microsoft for too long, it’s starting to rub off on me.
jade98155 said…
Well I just hope you can take what you give and don't regrete your actions.